Massacres of the United States such as those of El Paso and Dayton have become outrageously habitual. How many people have to die before we take care of what happens?
Surely nobody asked the question when he heard about the latest shootings in the United States. Surely nobody thought “well, in the US there are a lot of completely alienated women, probably with mental health issues and very wrong opinions about immigrants, so ‘the holster’, in both cases, was clearly one of them.” No one asked because it was clear that it had not been so.
Before I come with the ‘not all men’ let me say it to me: no, not all men are murderers, something for which I am supposed to say thank you. But the truth is that I don’t feel grateful. Absolutely. Nor are all men rapists, but in the United Kingdom, we have seen how rape has almost ceased to be a crime because of the deficiencies of our judicial system.
Many men will be as shocked as I am for all this. Sounds good to me. Now lobby to change things. You have the power.
The impressive thing about mass shootings is how common they are. Seven years after Sandy Hook, the United States (or the part of the country that, apparently, counts on this issue) seems to believe that the killing of young children is an acceptable price in exchange for ‘freedom’.
This is something that comes from before Trump. It is already well of sermons on the laws to have weapons and carry them in a visible way. We talked about the issue as if it were necessary to reach a certain number of people killed before something changed. We know that we will never reach that number and we know that these shooters not only point against others. They also shoot themselves. Two-thirds of gun deaths in the United States were suicides.
We also know, as Joan Smith documented so brilliantly in his book ‘Home Grown: How Domestic Violence Turns Men Into Terrorists’ (‘Males Violence Turns Men into Terrorists’), that many of these gunmen They have a history of terrified women in their lives. A terror they call ‘domestic abuse’. They are people capable of killing their own mothers or, as the Ohio shooter did, his own sister.
We know that there are links between this misunderstood masculinity and the set of ideas about the ‘genocide of whites’, or that migrants are invading us and staying with ‘our women’. Trump spits his poisonous rhetoric daily. And the American media also don’t question it too much. As Beto O’Rourke said: ” Members of the press, what the fuck? “
One cannot refer again and again to non-white people as if they were invading bugs and then appear shocked when someone acts in accordance with that speech. Major British newspapers also reflect racism against migrants, posing as humor, or as if they simply express common sense or say what cannot be said. It’s disgusting.
“Making America great again” is not only to make America white again but also to recover a particular type of masculinity. It is part of the reaction against feminism. With such obvious racism, many are able to see the former but have resistance to assume the latter. Instead, it is as if we have to congratulate any man who admits to having feelings.
Last week I participated in a debate about men in the 21st century. It was a torturous exercise to calm consciences talking about testosterone and cavemen, and how men had ceased to be the breadwinner of the family. This approach to Jordan Peterson never considers the importance of class, culture or history. In the working class, for example, women have always worked. And in the last forty years of the US, average families have needed both wages to support themselves.
Instead of starting a complex multidisciplinary debate, everyone has to agree that, today, being a man is very difficult and confusing. Save me That ‘crisis of masculinity’ that we are talking about at all times is an alibi. Masculinity in a crisis but it is also power, something that middle-class men who complain about not being able to express themselves take for granted.
Being considered a crazy witch for expressing my feelings is something that grieves me in a lot of different ways. I feel sad, very sad for the USA because I lived there for a time and I always felt it as my future, my possibility. I have something that many people crave: an American passport. I also grew up with weapons. My father gave one to my mother and I found it somewhat glamorous. All my boyfriends in the US had weapons. There I learned to shoot and it was exciting. But the US is no longer the future for me unless I decide to accept the massacres as something that simply happens.
Male violence, because that is the problem, is everywhere and in the US it is armed to the teeth. All right, change gun laws. Surely that is easier than changing an entire culture in which men express their feelings without stopping. Above all, through death and destruction.